Rant: Wedding planning
This is going to be some short post full of rants about how the planning for my wedding has been going...which is nowhere.
I never saw myself to be bridezilla because I feel like I am totally adequate at planning, but I think I can feel myself slowly turning into one. With school and work on my plate, I don't see how it's possible for me to properly plan anything by December, which means that I have to hand over the planning to someone else...namely my family members or his family members...so that I can study in peace without having to worry how I am going to visit different churches and venues and caterers, right?
Wrong.
Turns out I have to stress just as much because no one seems to be really doing anything to make it happen even though they so kindly "offered" to help and assured me that everything will be okay. I don't understand how anyone can believe that it can be planned out perfectly in just a couple of months (or even less) before the actual day? I'm not sure if this is because of a cultural clash between Chinese weddings and American weddings, but both sets of parents seem to be super chill about postponing the planning until the last minute.
Here's the thing. If no one wants to plan a wedding. Then screw weddings! Why do people even NEED a wedding ceremony? When you are so young and poor, eloping actually sounds like an awesome idea for multiple reasons:
1) You save lots of $$$$
2) You save the stress of planning events and programs
3) You get to spend quality time with your husband
4) Your honeymoon is probably super awesome because you have more money to blow on it since you didn't have to pay for a wedding
5) You don't have to deal with people you don't like but somehow have to invite because it's "the right thing to do"
But no. If I were to elope I am quite sure we would both be disowned by the family because it's so "disrespectful". Well then, if it's so important then why isn't anyone working making it happen? *desperately confused*
The chains of events (such as back and forth arguments) has led my sister to believe that eloping is actually the best idea ever if you're gonna marry and are short on funds. I don't disagree with her. In fact, I am kind of regretting even suggesting of having a ceremony in the first place. I used to think that people who turned bridezilla were too crazy and demanding...but I realized that with THIS many people involved in planning and wanting to have a say about each detail...anyone can turn into a monster. *sigh*
Abrupt ending because this is just a passing thought that I wanted to let out.
Toodles~
I never saw myself to be bridezilla because I feel like I am totally adequate at planning, but I think I can feel myself slowly turning into one. With school and work on my plate, I don't see how it's possible for me to properly plan anything by December, which means that I have to hand over the planning to someone else...namely my family members or his family members...so that I can study in peace without having to worry how I am going to visit different churches and venues and caterers, right?
Wrong.
Turns out I have to stress just as much because no one seems to be really doing anything to make it happen even though they so kindly "offered" to help and assured me that everything will be okay. I don't understand how anyone can believe that it can be planned out perfectly in just a couple of months (or even less) before the actual day? I'm not sure if this is because of a cultural clash between Chinese weddings and American weddings, but both sets of parents seem to be super chill about postponing the planning until the last minute.
Here's the thing. If no one wants to plan a wedding. Then screw weddings! Why do people even NEED a wedding ceremony? When you are so young and poor, eloping actually sounds like an awesome idea for multiple reasons:
1) You save lots of $$$$
2) You save the stress of planning events and programs
3) You get to spend quality time with your husband
4) Your honeymoon is probably super awesome because you have more money to blow on it since you didn't have to pay for a wedding
5) You don't have to deal with people you don't like but somehow have to invite because it's "the right thing to do"
But no. If I were to elope I am quite sure we would both be disowned by the family because it's so "disrespectful". Well then, if it's so important then why isn't anyone working making it happen? *desperately confused*
The chains of events (such as back and forth arguments) has led my sister to believe that eloping is actually the best idea ever if you're gonna marry and are short on funds. I don't disagree with her. In fact, I am kind of regretting even suggesting of having a ceremony in the first place. I used to think that people who turned bridezilla were too crazy and demanding...but I realized that with THIS many people involved in planning and wanting to have a say about each detail...anyone can turn into a monster. *sigh*
Abrupt ending because this is just a passing thought that I wanted to let out.
Toodles~
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